IN A NUTSHELL...
A Personal Coach and Mentor encourages... "No mistakes, no failures, no learning! It is a bummer, but you must get over yourself - get up and get on again - because one thing is sure – someone – sometime – somewhere – is not going to recognise your talent and how wonderful you are!"
This is usually a polite email, letter or phone call telling you that the job is not going to be given to you.
At this point, human nature kicks in in a big way – you may feel sick in the stomach, angry, depressed, bitter – a whole range of emotions – your self-esteem may nose-dive – you may burst into tears – all your dreams shattered....
This may be very tough for you for a few hours or days – but you have to get up and carry on!
And when you are tempted to say to yourself "If only I'd done or said this or that" - say instead "Next time I am going to..."
As Bear Grylls always says "Never give up!"
As someone perhaps even more famous also said...
“Success is moving from one failure to the next - without loss of enthusiasm!”
Think how many experiments it took to develop electricity, the light bulb, getting the first person on the moon.
Thank goodness so many people persevered through all those failures!
Try to learn from it – what could you honestly have done better? E.G...
So don’t stay down longer than you have to in order to lick the wounds of your bruised ego – get up and get at it again, and again, and again until you get what you need.
Often rejection is a blessing in disguise... as years later you may look back and think “I’m so pleased I never got that job – this one is so much better”.
Believe us – you will!
If you need encouragement - read the poem “Don’t quit”. The last verse speaks powerful truths:
Success is failure turned inside out -
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And when you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit -
It's when things seem worst,
You must not quit.
IF YIOU NEED MORE ENCOURAGEMENT...
(Source Bob Gass, Word for Today September 30 & October 1, 2025)
Researchers at the University of Pennsylvania tell us that a key predictor of success isn’t talent, title, wealth, or good looks. It’s the ability to work hard for a prolonged period of time towards a focused goal; to keep moving forwards despite challenges, obstacles, and failures. Paul writes: ‘We are pressed on every side by troubles, but not crushed and broken. We are perplexed because we don’t know why things happen as they do, but we don’t give up and quit. We are hunted down, but God never abandons us. We get knocked down, but we get up again and keep going’ (vv. 8-9 TLB).
Here are some famous people who got knocked down but kept on going. A memo issued after Fred Astaire’s first screen test said, ‘Can’t act…slightly bald…can dance a little.’ Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor for lack of ideas. He also went bankrupt several times before he built Disneyland. Albert Einstein didn’t speak until he was four and didn’t write until he was seven. His teacher described him as ‘mentally slow, unsociable and adrift forever in foolish dreams’. F.W. Woolworth’s employers at the dry goods store said he hadn’t enough sense to wait on customers. Winston Churchill failed at junior school. He didn’t become Prime Minister of Great Britain until he was sixty-six, after a lifetime of defeats and setbacks. He made his greatest contribution as a senior citizen.
Abraham Lincoln once said, ‘Bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.’ So when life knocks you down, get back up and keep going.
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One author writes: ‘Grit is passion and perseverance for long-term goals. It’s a marathon, not a sprint…You’re not just running, but getting hit along the way. Grit keeps you moving forward through the sting of rejection, pain of failure, and struggle with adversity. When life knocks you down, you may want to stay down and give up, but grit won’t let you quit…True grit starts with knowing what you truly want. When you know what you want and you can see it, you’ll work hard and persevere to achieve it.
'True grit is also driven by clarity of mind, purpose, passion, optimism, faith, love, hope and quite honestly – stubbornness. Knowing your why, refusing to give up, ignoring the critics, believing the possible, loving what you do, and showing up day in and day out keeps you on the path towards your vision. There’s something inside each of us that wants to feel worthy and be someone of value…The truth is not everyone will share your vision and believe in your project. But always remember that the circumstances around you and the opinion of others don’t create or define you. Life is never created from the outside in. You create life from the inside out. The grit and spirit you possess on the inside will create the life you experience on the outside. If you have a vision, keep it alive. Remember your purpose. Show up every day and do the work.’
John Quincy Adams said, ‘Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear.’ So, stay on course and keep moving forwards, and you will succeed.
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